Loneliness is worse

"How can  I ask anyone to love me, when all I do is beg to be left alone?"

 

Fiona Apple - Left Alone, Directed by Salar Bill.

 

 

That line has been on my mind a lot lately. There's a delicate balance between interaction and being alone, and often pulling yourself away from people leads to them thinking you don't care about them anymore, when often that's not the case at all. Distancing yourself leads to all sorts of troubles and confusion. People start to wonder if there's something wrong with you. If you're depressed, or insane, or just troubled.  Loneliness is looked at so negatively, but it is really such a horrible thing? So many people are obsessed with being sociable and making connections. 'Oh, I'm so lonely' you hear them cry, like it's the end of the world, like the only way they can be happy is to have someone there with them. When you think about it though, all you have is yourself. You're the only person that you can completely count on and control to do exactly what you want to do, everyone else has themselves for that. It's said that the people around you mould you into who you are, and I think that can be very true. People are curious, so being around others can be quite a wonderful and stimulating thing, but I think being alone is often underrepresented.

When you're left alone, you aren't washed over by other people's words. You are left with only yourself to talk to, whether internally or out loud. You have to think for yourself, entertain yourself. Often that means creating new ideas and things. It can drive you mad too. It's amazing how emotional people get when they are alone, how the power of just simply thinking for yourself can have such a strong impact. The best music, writing, inventions, and the most beautiful artwork often comes from loneliness. Letting yourself be completely separated from others is a wonderful thing. Basically, I just think people need to appreciate alone time a little more. Hopefully this post has helped you re-think things a little bit. Now go, turn off your phone. Be lonely. Take a walk on the wild side.



 

 

Walk on the Wild Side - Lou Reed.

 

 

 

RIP Lou. xx